Light your own path...

Light your own path...

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Anything is possible!

If this lesson isn't felt by all in the midst of such a historic moment in time, I don't know what you're waiting for.

Realization: You are your worse enemy.

Only you can stop yourself from achiveing that which you desire to do. I know life deals blows that seem impossible to rebound from, but God puts obstacles directly in our paths in order to test our durability and if a problem becomes too much for you to overcome, it means it's not your time to shine because you aren't fighting back hard enough for it. Press through, battle as if your life depends on it (it just might), reach for what you want, grab it and let nothing shake you loose. If you don't work hard to fulfill your own dreams, who else can you blame but the person you see looking back at you in a mirror?

Thursday, January 15, 2009

Talk to yourself. Really, it's okay.

Realization: Sometimes it takes having a conversation with yourself to make sense of it all.

Everyone talks to themselves in one way or another. Some are a little more obvious about it. You know, the people you see walking down the street literally holding a deep conversation with the air. I've seen it hundreds of times and i'll admit to raising my eyebrows at it every time. But sometimes it really does take that. To just sit down (preferably somewhere you can be alone) and work it out amongst yourself. If you feel like you're on the verge of a nervous/mental/emotional breakdown, sit down and talk your way out of it. My catchphrases seem to be "I'm not doin this right now." or "Don't go there, don't do it." I say it to myself a few times and breathe in and out, forcing the tears to go back from where they came so I can keep some sense of outwardly control over myself. It works. So whether the "conversation" is quick and to the point, or if you have to sit and go word for word with yourself, work it out and see if it doesn't help you sort out the madness.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Good things come to those who wait

Realization: Just because you want it right now doesn't mean you can handle it right now.

We always want that which we don't have. I want a million dollars, a car, a nice house, a book deal, and the ability to quit my job right now at this very second and never look back. All of these things may make me the happiest woman this side of the bay, but i'm not getting all of that at this very moment because if I did...who knows what kind of non-responsible, self-destructive, money-blowing slacker I would turn into? lol. In due time and after enough hard work and hustle, i'm sure my dreams will turn into a sweet reality and i'll be wise enough (and sane enough) to appreciate it.

It wasn't meant for us to get everything precisely when we want it. If that were the case, all of us would be head-deep in some mess that we would never be able to recover from. Life is as such that we usually have to EARN what we want by paying our dues and proving ourselves capable of handling the responsibility of our blessings. When I was young I never thought I would be quoting my dad on this, but as he always said
"Having responsibility without first achieving dependability is like having no ability at all."

Think about it.

Monday, January 12, 2009

Being selfish isn't always a bad thing

Realization: It's okay to shut the world out every once in awhile and take care of yourself first.

We are taught as children the value of sharing and being open and friendly, taking care of others before we tend to ourselves. We are taught not to be selfish but instead be selfLESS and give give give because that's where the true beauty is. All of this is true and i'm greatful for any and all lessons learned on the art of being selfless. But once we're all grown up and the real world comes beating down our once parent-protected walls, sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do... for OURSEVLES.

Most of us have jobs/careers, family, friends, enemies, hobbies, school and a multiude of other things on our plates. It may take awhile, but the brain can and will become overwhelmed and shut down, resulting in mental or emotional breakdowns. Then what good will we be to anyone? None whatsoever.

So even if it's just 15 minutes a day, take some time out for yourself and just be. Isolate yourself somewhere where you won't be bothered, plug in your ipod (or not if you just want silence), go for a walk/drive, enjoy a lunch alone, go see a movie, something. Just do it for yourself. Rejuvenate your mind, body and soul so that when it's time for you to be everything for everyone'll be fully charged and ready to go.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

Is it life or death? If not...move on.

Okay, so this one is a hard one for me. I'll admit it. I'm a big time worrier, I overthink everything and stress tends to kick my ass at all the wrong times sending me into spirals of tears and snappiness. But it's a new year, i'm 6 months away from being a year older and it's time to set myself straight and start letting things GO.

Realization: Not everything is worth an ulcer, gray hairs and a bucket of tears.

When the pressure starts weighing in and stress starts to creep up on you, making it virtually impossible for you to eat, sleep and think straight, take a mental step back from the issue and stare at it. It sounds wierd because how can you stare at an issue? Trust me, when something is worrying you to death it feels as if it's a living, breathing leach attached to your temples, so treat it as such and mentally detach yourself from it and analyze the situation:

Is it life or death? Will it completely destroy your life and the lives of other people if you don't come to a decision and fix it immediately? Will stressing off of whatever it is make you a better person in the long run, or will nothing change? Are you hurting others by letting the issue consume you? Are you draining energy through negativity? Can you not possibly live life happily without worrying about it?

If the answers to these ?'s show that it's really not worth all of the damage you are doing to your brain and to your soul....let it GO.

Now this doesn't mean you have to become a total slacker and start running away from all of your problems. Just give yourself a break for awhile and tackle the issue in steps, allowing yourself time to mentally deal with everything. You'll come to more thoughtful conclusions and make better decisions if your mind is clear and semi-relaxed. Yes, stress in inevitable. But it doesn't have to be the death of you. But if you don't control will be.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Fall in love with YOU

Realization- Why should someone else love you for who you are if you can barely stand yourself?

Most (if not all) of us love to be in love. It's a great feeling. You know, the whole butterflies in the stomach, head in the clouds thing. Those first couple months of a new relationship really know how to lay on the glossy sheen nice and thick. But infant love never fails to mature, and time also knows how to pile something on thick, but it isn't shiny and tends to smell really bad.

Of course, by nature our heads can't remain in the clouds for years, so reality has to set in on the love and we have to roll with the good and the bad. But when the bad outweighs the good and misery seeps's time to figure out what the true problem is. We like to cast blame on everyone else in sight, not realizing that the root of the problem may very well be buried deep within ourselves. How well have we tended to our own needs? How honest have we been with ourselves? How well are we taking care of our own minds, bodies, and souls? How can you give 100% to someone else if you can't even adequately take care of yourself?

We have to learn how to be our own best friends who know how to seek truth, strive for self-betterment and know the meaning of truly being satisfied with who we are. Once we learn to love ourselves, then we'll be able to focus more attention on being in love with someone else. Until that happens, we'll just continue to waste our own and everyone elses precious time.

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Day 1: To thine own self be true

Realization- I am not a perfect person, nor do I ever want to be.

Our mistakes are set in place wayyy before we make them and are meant to act as speed bumps, reminding us to slow down and think before we act. Learning lessons from that which may have not ended so well in our lives is the only way to prevent it from ever happening again. It's very easy to fall into a funk over poor decisions and actions, but that never gets us anywhere besides angry and resentful. Admit to the mistake, forgive yourself first and then genuinely apologize and reach out to those who you may have harmed with your mistake and piece your life back together, one truth and smile at a time.