Realization- Why should someone else love you for who you are if you can barely stand yourself?
Most (if not all) of us love to be in love. It's a great feeling. You know, the whole butterflies in the stomach, head in the clouds thing. Those first couple months of a new relationship really know how to lay on the glossy sheen nice and thick. But infant love never fails to mature, and time also knows how to pile something on thick, but it isn't shiny and tends to smell really bad.
Of course, by nature our heads can't remain in the clouds for years, so reality has to set in on the love and we have to roll with the good and the bad. But when the bad outweighs the good and misery seeps in...it's time to figure out what the true problem is. We like to cast blame on everyone else in sight, not realizing that the root of the problem may very well be buried deep within ourselves. How well have we tended to our own needs? How honest have we been with ourselves? How well are we taking care of our own minds, bodies, and souls? How can you give 100% to someone else if you can't even adequately take care of yourself?
We have to learn how to be our own best friends who know how to seek truth, strive for self-betterment and know the meaning of truly being satisfied with who we are. Once we learn to love ourselves, then we'll be able to focus more attention on being in love with someone else. Until that happens, we'll just continue to waste our own and everyone elses precious time.
1 year ago